Zosia Mamet

Have you guys been reading Zosia Mamet’s columns in Glamour? She is amazing. I especially loved her recent piece, Zosia Mamet on Why She Won’t Lean In, Thanks. She wrote about the importance of defining success on your own terms and having the confidence to pursue your definition of success. It is easy to feel pressured by other people’s expectations and definitions of success but, at the end of the day, it is better to do what will make you happy. She also wrote about the importance of being supportive and accepting of other people’s decisions. Just because someone has a different definition of success, it doesn’t mean that their definition is wrong or less valid.


Here are a few of my favorite points from her column:

  • “We are so obsessed with ‘making it’ these days we’ve lost sight of what it means to be successful on our own terms. As women we have internalized the idea that every morning we wake up, we have to go for the f–king gold. You can’t just jog; you have to run a triathlon. Having a cup of coffee, reading the paper, and heading to work isn’t enough—that’s settling, that’s giving in, that’s letting them win. You have to wake up, have a cup of coffee, conquer France, bake a perfect cake, take a boxing class, and figure out how you are going to get that corner office or become district supervisor, while also looking damn sexy—but not too sexy, because cleavage is degrading—all before lunchtime. Who in her right mind would want to do that? And who would even be able to?”
  • “I think, unfortunately, some of our need to succeed professionally is a by-product of a good thing: feminism. Feminism was meant to empower us as women, to build us up for fighting on male-dominated battlefields. It did that, but it did some other things as well. It gave us female role models like Hillary and Oprah and Beyoncé and in the process implied that mogul-hood should be every woman’s goal. We kept the old male ideas of success: power and money. We need new ones!”
  • “I hate that we look at women who choose not to run a country as having given up. I get angry that, when a woman decides to hold off on gunning for a promotion because she wants to have a baby, other women whisper that ‘she’s throwing away her potential.’ That is when we’re not supporting our own. Who are we to put such a limited definition on success? The Merriam-Webster dictionary says success is ‘the correct or desired result of an attempt.’ But you get to decide what you attempt. If you get off running a global hair care empire, more power to you, but if working as a hairdresser somewhere within that empire brings you joy, then that should be just as admirable. You shouldn’t feel like you’re letting down the team.
  • “The solution, I think, is to ask ourselves what we actually want—each of us personally—and stop putting so much pressure on one another. Success isn’t about winning everything; it’s about achieving your dream, be that teaching middle school or flying jets. And no matter what we as individual women want, no matter what our goals, we have to support one another. Because I might actually open a café in Vermont—just a small one, where I make the muffins myself—and I hope you ladies don’t think me any less of a woman for it.”

P.S. You should also read her piece about accepting your flaws!

Zosia Mamet

6 thoughts on “Zosia Mamet

  1. I’ve been obsessed with her column lately, she truly is such an inspiration. I saw people tweeting about her column about not leaning in and once I read it, I knew why everyone was freaking out about it. It was amazing!

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